Current mood: content
The big question on everyone's mind, since the baby was born is, how is/will Mia adjust? Will she lash out? Will she not like the baby? Will she start acting up more than usual? Will she be jealous? etc.
Well so far so good. Adrian and I have made extra efforts to give Mia extra attention when we can so she doesn't feel left out. The big test, however, was me. I am always with Mia and we have a special bond together.. I rarely leave her side unless Dada is with her and she knows this. Since I am a stay at home Mom, my whole day revolves around Mia. So I really wasn't sure how she would react once she realizes she needs to share "Mama time".
So far so good. I try to include her in all the baby things. If I am feeding Alex, I explain to her "Baby Eat" when she sees Baby things I tell her "Baby brother (item)" and if he is crying I try to teach her how to console him by saying "Shh... shhh..shh.." in which she copies and sometimes does it automatically (which I think is really cute). She doesn't seem to have anything negative against him, though she doesn't like when I try to share HER old baby things or her baby things with him. Thats when she gets possessive and mad. Sometimes she doesn't want me or Adrian to hold him, but thats only if we were already doing something with her first, and then the baby will cry and need us during HER play time.
Today, however, really gave me hope in that she may like the baby. I was changing his diaper (she loves to watch me do that for some reason, even if the bedroom door is partly close she will bust right through just to watch me) I explain what is happening and why he is crying "Baby brother pee pees" or "Baby Alex has poopies" or "Baby wet" and she seems to understand. Yesterday she even tried to hand me a handful of his baby diapers to help me. Well today she insisted on watching me again only this time she stood on top of a diaper box just so she could get a better look. She leaned over his little changing table on the pack and play and looked at her screaming brother. Then she said the cutest thing, "It ok baby... it ok baby" AWWWW!!!! She was actually trying to console him. She didn't want to touch him but she was trying to talk to him because he was crying. I hugged her and praised her for being a good big sister and finished changing Alex. Soon he stopped crying. I took some time out to talk to Mia about Alex. "Look see his baby feet?" "Baby feet" she would reply and stuff like that. She seemed to really enjoy it, again she didn't want to touch him. Then I picked him up and told her "Ok time for baby to eat" thats when she got upset, she wanted me to put him back down on the changing table so she could look at him some more. I told her he needed to eat and Mama needed help and soon she took off with me.
Well that is a good sign I think... hopefully it will continue.... only time will tell...
